Things Turning Bad? Fed Up? Zero Motivation? This Might Help

I’ve been having a bit of a hard time recently that has prompted me to write this short post.

I wanted to share with you the 6 things that I think about when I hit these periodic lulls, and let’s face it. We all hit lulls at one time or another.

These 6 things help me to bring my life, work and everything else into balance – So here goes…

#1: Put things into Perspective

Your problems affect YOU and other people don’t or won’t always understand what you’re going through. However, it’s always good to remind yourself that there are ALWAYS people who are much worse off than you right now. People who are going through real trauma and tough times.

When you think about that, it makes your problems seem less significant, and it helps remind you how lucky you are compared to others.

#2: Accept that Life Isn’t Always Going to be Easy

Just like happy and successful times come along, bad and unhappy times can come along also. It’s life, and we have to deal with it. Times can be testing, difficult and upsetting but when you truly accept that this is part of your experience you can often turn those times into a positive. You can learn from them and develop / improve as a person.

Remember, it’s only during hard times you’ll really discover who you are and what you’re made of.

#3: Nothing Lasts Forever

It’s easy to hit a lull or fall upon bad times and forget that it’s only temporary.

You get caught up in your situation and your feelings start to snowball. You become disheartened, lose your motivation, become irritable, and maybe even want to give up.

But the truth is bad times do come to an end. Nothing lasts forever and bad cycles will pass – Brighter, more successful days lay ahead.

#4: What Seems Big Now Will Be Insignificant in the Future

That’s right! That relationship that is recently over and burning a whole in your heart will mean nothing in 10 years from now.

That debt that is hanging around your head likely won’t exist in 5 or 10 years from now.

That job that you didn’t get – Pfftt! A better one will come along.

The fact of the matter is, little things can stress us all out. But ask yourself this – In 5,10, or even 20 years from now will you even remember it? Will it have impacted your life in any shape or form.

The answer is, “probably NOT!”.

#5: You’ve Survived Your Worse Days So Far

You need to remember that up to the present day, you have survived your worse days and are still here.

You probably won’t even realize how many bad times you have survived already in your life – It will be a lot.

Give yourself some credit and realize that you have survived every hard / bad / sad time so far in your life and you’re still here moving forward.

Heart aches, failures, break ups, grievances. You’ve beat them all and you can do it again.

#6: Tomorrow is a New Day

There’s a reason the sun rises on a morning, and the clocks reset at the start of a new day.

It’s because it’s a new day and an opportunity to get out of bed on the right foot and start a fresh.

Yesterday was a bad day for me. Everything that could have gone wrong did. But I took 10 minutes out of my day, sat down with a coffee and thought about the things that I have outlined in this post and it helped me regain my emotions and focus.

Guess what – I woke up this morning feeling a lot better.

We all have good and bad days, but every single day is a chance to start a fresh with a strengthened mindset, new ambitions, and the willingness to move forward.

Let the above points embed themselves into your mind and every time things seem hard, re-iterate them.

You’ll be back on track before you know it.

If you can relate, or have any tips / thoughts of your own, I’d love to hear from you – drop a comment below!

To your success and future happiness

Andy Black

Measuring Your Success and Happiness Against Others, and WHY Not to do it

Today I felt compelled to sit down and write about something that I see so many people falling into the trap of.

And that is “Measuring their success against other peoples”.

I see this all the time, and at one point in my life, I was the same. To the point it sucked up my confidence, made me feel bitter, and left me wondering WHY everyone was successful and happy, when I wasn’t.

However, if recent years have taught me anything, it’s been HOW to focus on myself, my business, and my happiness, and not to compare myself to others.

If you find yourself always comparing yourself to other people, whether this is friends, family, neighbors, or even business associates – And find that it is affecting you, and your growth as a person – Then keep reading.

Here’s a few reasons WHY you should cut out the noise of other people, stop paying attention to what they’re doing, and focus on what YOU’RE doing.

  1. Worrying about what other people have got, what they’re achieving, or how much of an amazing life they “appear” to have only means you have LESS time to focus on yourself. It consumes your time, and time is one thing you only have so much of. Don’t get distracted by others!
  2. Comparing yourself to others can lead to bitterness, and leave you wondering how THEY manage to have it so good, and you haven’t. This bitterness can lead to a lack of confidence, low self esteem and prevent you from moving forward with your ideas – Not to mention, make you feel unhappy. Stop it! Comparing yourself to others is like comparing a chair with an orange. They both do completely different things, some better than the other, and vice versa… Just like you and other people!
  3. Other peoples lives, success and happiness have ZERO impact on your OWN life, success and happiness. We all have different paths, and are all individuals with our own goals, interests and aspirations. Focus on YOU and enjoy the journey, including the failures. It’s what success is built on!
  4. Smoke and mirrors. What do I mean by “smoke and mirrors”? Half of social media is smoke and mirrors, and if you judged peoples lives by their social media, you would assume they were happy, and successful 100% of the time, and living the kind of life you could only dream of. Stop! It isn’t real. They’re showing the best bits, and not sharing all the bad things going on in their life. Don’t think for one minute that everyone else isn’t dealing with curve balls, hurdles and struggles in life. They are, you just don’t see it! When you realize this your own life won’t look so bad.

So, whether you’re comparing your life, happiness or success against a friend, work colleague, family member, neighbor, or anyone else. Stop it.

The only person you need to compete against in life is yourself, and nobody else.

Focus on yourself, and what you’re doing. Trust me, it will bring balance to your life and you’ll feel a lot better for it when you stop comparing yourself to those that have no impact on your life whatsoever.

If you got some value from this blog post, or can relate to this, then feel free to drop me a comment in the comments section below. It would be great to hear from you.

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To your success!
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Don’t Think, Just Do

sticky notes resolutionsWe’re nearly 2 weeks into 2016 and the whole “New Years Resolutions” farce that I’ve been seeing posted all over social media spurred me to write this post.

Here’s the thing.  Every new year millions of people all over the world realized that they have SUCKED at losing weight, keeping fit, making money, or being inconsistent with something along these lines for the previous YEAR.  At the start of the new year these same people make a half baked promise to themselves that they will turn these failures around and 2 weeks later these promises are broken and that’s that for another year.

Sound familiar?

New Years Resolutions are programmed into us to fail.  We associate these resolutions with the excitement of a new year and once the new year feeling passes, so does our desire to stick with our resolutions.  This has proven to be the case each and every year and although “some” will stick with their resolutions the majority will  FAIL miserably.

Here is what you need to do.  Stop waiting for the New Year.

Taking actionYou see, the very best time to make a change in your life it to act RIGHT NOW.  Whether it is to lose weight, stick to a training regime, start a business, learn to cook… whatever it is there is no better time than the present.

Believe it or not “change” is instant.  It doesn’t take days or weeks… it just takes a stern decision to act now and change.  That’s it.

By not acting right now you’re basically making an excuse and justifying it.  If you argue with me on that point then I’m likely already proving my point.

People who succeed in life do not wait for New Years to put a plan in place.  They make a decision and act NOW.

As the title of this post says… Don’t think, just do.

Maximize Your Success By Believing In Yourself

believe in yourselfToday I wanted to talk about a key ingredient to breaking down those barriers to success and that is “Believing in yourself”.

I wrote a post about negativity previously and that has some similarities to what I’m talking about here.  You see, it is a fact of life that most people are not driven in the slightest.  They are happy working their 9-5 jobs skating through life without any real ambition.  The problem here is that although some of these people are not “action takers” they don’t like others to be either.  This can often result in them pulling other people dreams and aspirations apart.  I’ve experienced it myself.

Do you know any people like this?

When entrepreneurs take the plunge with a project or dream we often battle with our own internal demons.  We think to ourselves, “Will this work?”… “Is this a good idea?”… “Will others see the value in this idea?”.  This is a natural outcome of getting out of our comfort zone and actually doing something.  Taking an idea and turning it into a reality.  It might be risky, there may be a level of uncertainty… but by god, it feels good!  And if you don’t try you will never know.

The issue is that some people do not share our dream and because they aren’t the ones getting off their backside and taking the required actionable steps they will not offer the support you’d expect.

You see, whatever you do in life you have to believe in yourself.  You have to believe in what you are creating, and the value it will bring to others.  Not believing in yourself is one of the biggest SUCCESS KILLERS known to man (or woman).  It’s all to do with mindset.  If you don’t believe in your idea then your idea has failed before you have even started.

Stay positive, stay focused, stay driven and more importantly believe in yourself and your goals.

When You Can’t See the Woods for the Tree’s

walking to clear mindHave you ever heard that expression before? When you can’t see the woods for the tree’s.

It refers to being too close or involved with a situation to see it clearly or have clarity.  The reason I wanted to write about this is because I have often being in this situation.  There are times when you can get stuck on a problem and unless you walk away from it you’ll struggle to get enough clarity to “SOLVE” it.

Owning my own software and online marketing business means that I do some “Programming” from time to time.  I don’t need to do this myself but I LIKE to keep my hand in it because I enjoy it SO much.  I enjoy it like a hobby.

However, there have been countless times when I have been stuck on a coding problem.  I have found myself engrossed in a problem for hours, tweaking and testing and going over the same bit of code over and over again.  It’s frustrating as I always felt really close to solving these issues BUT never did until a number of hours had passed.  That’s time wasted that I’ll never get back.

fresh air to de-clutter mindOn one occasion I had such a problem and spent around 6 hours trying to resolve it with ZERO success.  I got angry and frustrated and after a number of attempts I decided to leave my machine and go on a long walk with my dog.  It was a nice sunny day and after about 5 minutes of walking along a quiet walkway my frustration started to subside.  My thoughts became clearer.  I started to ponder on my issue again but this time I wasn’t at my machine with my brain running at 100mph.  I was out walking taking deep breaths and enjoying a more relaxed environment.  Suddenly I came up with the “Solution”.  It almost drifted into place and I knew exactly WHERE I was going wrong and how I could most likely fix it.  I got back home about 30 minutes later, applied my solution and it solved my problem.

From that day it made me realize something.  If you are having a problem working something out or you can’t seem to “Get your head around” a situation then remove yourself from that environment and put your mind in a more relaxed state.  You can’t solve problems when your mind is clogged up and frustrated.  Your brain works much better when you de-clutter it and take yourself away from the problem!

Relaxing thoughts by walkingI hope that you enjoyed this post and got something valuable from it.  These photo’s were taken on “one” of my dog walks.  It’s amazing the ideas and solutions that I come up with when I venture out on these walks with my dog.

Setting Goals and Fueling Your Desire to Succeed

Goal setting plays a vital part in both business and your personal life.  If you have no goals you have no direction.  Imagine taking the goal posts away in a football match… The players would have no clear direction to kick the ball.  The same applies in your life and business.

Earlier last year (2014) I set myself a goal.  It had been a long time since I owned a sports car and with me heading towards the big “40” I wanted to rekindle my youth and treat myself to something shiny and sporty.  So, I set myself a goal of buying and owning a 370Z.  The condition I set myself – I had to earn the money outright in order to get one.

So, what did this do? It gave me a desire to achieve this goal.  It gave me something to work towards and to focus on.  I mapped out a plan to achieve this goal and then got to work.  Each and every morning when I turned on my computer I spent just 5 minutes looking at this car.  I imagined what it would be like to pick it up and drive home.  I imagined what it would feel like to pull it off my driveway on a warm summers day and take it out for a drive.  This allowed me to get passionate not just about the car but also the “work” required in order to achieve this goal.  After all it wasn’t going to earn itself.  Within just 2-3 months I had made enough extra money to buy my 370Z outright.

By focusing on a goal it makes you enjoy the whole process so much more.  Every day you get a step closer and the sense of “achievement” is amazing.

Here are a couple of photos of my “2014” goal.

The truth is that goal setting will help you strive for greatness and help you achieve bigger and better things in your life.  Once you achieve one goal set another.  After all why stop?  As they say – a moving train is going places.

An important thing to remember when setting goals is “Do not make your goals too small”.  By chasing easy goals you won’t push yourself hard enough.  You won’t have the same desire to succeed and the excitement just won’t be there.  Set big goals, push your limits and know that you can achieve them if you just take action.  My 2015 goals have so far been MUCH bigger and guess what… I smashed them!  If I can, so can you!


The Scarcity Mindset – Are You Thinking Big Enough?

Do you ever wonder why some people have nothing whilst others are sat on a mountain of cash and are living the dream? Well, I appreciate that there are various circumstances that can give some an advantage over others but in most cases there is no excuse for not being successful and living the kind of life you desire.  The key difference between these two types of people is their “Mindset”.  The question is, are you thinking BIG enough?

Some fish grow in relation to the size of the tank they are in… and some plants grow larger and taller when they are taken out of a small plant pot and placed into a larger one.  Yes, those were analogies but very fitting ones.  You see, when you rid yourself of the scarcity mindset and think BIGGER you will become more successful.

This is also knowthinking big and the scarcity mindsetn as “Limited Beliefs”.  If you believe you can only earn up to a certain amount of money per year then guess what… It’s very likely that’s the most you will earn.  Your mindset is a very powerful tool and if you don’t expand your mindset to bigger opportunities and possibilities you will subconsciously limit your ability to grow and prosper.

I myself used to have a scarcity mindset.  I used to dream of being able to earn a few thousand dollars per month online and as a result of that I subconsciously followed a path that eventually gave me that.  In hindsight though why didn’t I dream of earning multiple times that? Why did I just focus on earning a few thousand per month? The reason was my mindset at the time.  I never thought it was possible for me to achieve that and as a result it stumped my financial growth.

When you open your mind to bigger goals and a wider vision you are increasing the size of your “Fish Tank”.  Financially speaking money is all around us.  It changes hands each and every day and the world that we live on is essentially a large pie of money.  The question is – How big a slice of that pie are you going to take? Most people think that money is hard to come by and it is that exact limited mindset that prevents them from tapping into this pie of money and getting more for themselves.

When you understand and “accept” that money and opportunities are around you all the time your goals and vision will grow and you will finally open yourself up for bigger and better things.

Why settle for less when you can have so much more? It’s just a case of creating a big vision and then taking actionable steps to turn that vision into a reality.


Cutting Out Negativity

cutting out negativityThe subject of “Negativity” is one I felt I wanted to talk about first on my blog.  The reason for this is because negativity will suck the life force from you and really stump the progress of being able to lead a happy, successful life.

Negativity breeds negativity like laughter breeds laughter.  This actually relates to an old analogy – “You are what you eat”.  If you eat rubbish you will feel like rubbish.  The same rule of thumb applies to both negativity and positivity.  Surround yourself with happy, positive, successful people and you yourself are more likely to be happy, positive and successful.  Alternatively, if you surround yourself with negative people then they will drain any positivity you have and drag you down.  They will stop you progressing in your life and hinder your chances of success.  That is a fact.

When I was a child I wasn’t the most confident of people.  People around me made me feel that I wasn’t worthy or that other people were more capable than I was.  I’m not suggesting this was intentional but it was how I felt at the time and it engrained in me from a very early age.  I wasn’t confident around girls and more importantly I wasn’t confident in my abilities.  It’s amazing how that kind of feeling can effect you growing up.

As I grew older I started to have ideas, aspirations and a vision for a better life.  Call it a dream or whatever you like.  The problem was that those around me were quick to pull apart my dreams and ideas.  I was made to feel inferior and because of that never pursued anything with confidence.  Whatever you do in life you MUST do with confidence!  If you aren’t confident with what you are doing you have already lost the battle.

Unfortunately, negativity can come from many directions.  Often it can be family and friends.  It’s not easy to cut out family and I’m not suggesting you do but at the very least you need to learn how to put up a barrier against their negativity.  You need to surround yourself in a bubble and keep negativity as far away as possible from you.  As for negative friends and associates… Surrounding yourself by these types of friends and people will impact your life in a negative way.  Instead spend more time with those that are happy and positive.  Those that listen to your goals, show interest and tell you to go for it are the types of people you need to be mixing with.

I’m going to end with a quote that I often see banded around and it is – “Surround yourself with successful people and you too will become successful”.  Never have there been truer words.