My Honeymoon and the Valuable Lesson It Taught Me

So, just recently I got married.  In fact, not only did I get married this year I also moved house to a quiet, beautiful location.  Don’t get me wrong, this is all great.  However, the disruption it causes can have a detrimental effect on your business.  All of the planning, financial and physical aspects can tire you out.  I also had ZERO internet access for just over TWO months after moving into my new house which put additional strain on my business and income.  An internet based business with no internet access… Go figure right?  It wasn’t good.

However, the point of this post is to let you know about a positive impact that my honeymoon had on me.  Not only me (and my new wife) but also my business.

You see, right up to the point of boarding the plane my thoughts had started to go cloudy in terms of business.  So much had gone on the previous months that I started to lose co-ordination and organization with my business.  Everything became less structured and I struggled to manage my time efficiently.

In a nutshell, I was starting to lose my way a little and I didn’t have the clarity to put it right.

Here’s what I found.  Not only did my honeymoon (two weeks in Riviera Maya – Mexico) give my wife and I some quality time together to start our married life off on the right foot.  It also allowed me to RE-BOOT my thoughts and mindset.  It enabled me to dis-connect with my business.

In typical entrepreneur fashion I can only dis-connect for so long and after a few days of swimming in the pool, walking on the beach and eating fine food thoughts of business and “dreams of big things” started to flow through my mind.  The main difference here was that I was able to see my business with a “Birds Eye” view.  I wasn’t sat in my office or in my business environment.  I was 4,500 – 5,000 miles away in paradise.

So, what does this mean? My thoughts were clearer.  I could see where I was going wrong and “what” was going wrong.  The waters were no longer muddy and I could identify various aspects of my business that could be tweaked and improved.

Often, little tweaks can have a positive impact.

I burnt a mental image into my mind with a plan of what I was going to do.  I identified things that I were no longer going to do.  I identified things I “needed” to do.  I noted down simple rules that if I followed them daily, they would increase my work flow and productivity.  Sometimes, that’s all it takes.  Rules!

I started back working on my business on Monday and it is now Friday.  It is early days but I am loving my new outlook and already have BIG plans for 2016.

If you ever find yourself in a similar position where you find it hard to get some kind of clarity, or find that you’re making less progress than you’d like then take a VACATION.

Removing yourself from your business environment and completely dis-connecting allows you to regain your focus and view everything with a fresh set of eyes and a clear mind.  Once you step outside of the daily grind you can see things far more clearly.  Not only that, once your vacation comes to an end you will be refreshed and raring to get back to it.  Only this time you’ll be more streamlined, more efficient and you’ll be in a better position than ever to take your business to the next level.

Ready to book your tickets?

10 thoughts on “My Honeymoon and the Valuable Lesson It Taught Me

  • October 16, 2015 at 9:18 am
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    Awesome post and some well put through points, you’ve always been a grinder, hard at work and to see you losing your grip a little was gutting from me as an outsider looking in. So glad you’ve got your mojo back as well as a great new wife, house and life.

    Keep it up bro.

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    • October 16, 2015 at 9:34 am
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      Thank you. Being able to accept when things are going wrong is vital in business. Mistakes can lead to success when accepted and dealt with.

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  • October 16, 2015 at 9:26 am
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    Congratulations on your wedding and new home, I agreed with what you said, and reminded me of Dan Peña, saying, that your presence in your business is the stopping part for exponential growth. Systems and people should run your business, not You.

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    • October 16, 2015 at 9:36 am
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      Absolutely Roger. My post wasn’t directly about scaling but yes, removing yourself from mundane tasks that are not a good use of your time and outsourcing those tasks will ultimately lead to growth.

      Thanks for your comment.

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  • October 16, 2015 at 10:04 am
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    Totally agree with you Andy. A few friends and I went Ibiza for 2 weeks in August and although you may think Ibiza’s not the ideal place to relax, it was. As we went for 2 weeks, it wasn’t all partying, I am 41 🙂 plenty of relaxing by the pool in our villa, so i came back totally re-energised with a new focus.

    I’ve worked my arse off since going full time with my business 4 years ago and not took many holidays at all. Big mistake.

    I intended to do some work in Ibiza and ended up doing less than a couple of hours over 2 weeks so it was pretty much total switch off, which was awesome.

    Wish you and your wife all the best for the future mate and I’m certain your business will grow exponentially over the come months and years.

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    • October 16, 2015 at 11:08 am
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      Hey Ian, glad you had a great time in Ibiza and that it served an additional purpose. It really does provide a kind of therapy that is sometimes needed in order to push forward.

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  • October 16, 2015 at 12:20 pm
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    All the best to you and the new Mrs Black…was actually in the same place as you, at the same time, thinking the same things…

    Even though the two weeks I was there was one of the most profitable online for a few years, looking at my business with a birds eye view and being away from the day to day Ive come back with lots of changes going forward. Ive started to implement and Ive already started to see the change.

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  • October 16, 2015 at 2:21 pm
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    I am feeling the need for a vaca! Going thru some of the same stuff right now so it was good to read this post from you man! BTW Congrats! =)

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  • October 16, 2015 at 2:27 pm
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    Hi, and Congrats on your Marriage and New Home. I really appreciate this write up and I have known you for some time on making softwares that are very valuable to any online business. What you said in this write up is actually true and helps in development in other aspects of life.
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  • December 31, 2016 at 9:18 am
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    Hi, and Congrats on your Marriage and New Home. Awesome post and some well put through points, you’ve always been a grinder, hard at work/

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